Guiding anxious people pleasers and couples in New York to understand why they react the way they do
AND finally feel secure in their relationships
Online Therapy for Individuals & Couples with Anxious Attachment, Relationship Anxiety, Conflict & Communication struggles, so conflict becomes communication and distance becomes connection.
If you and your partner keep hitting the same wall:
one of you pulling in, the other pulling away
There's a reason for that.
This is where you figure it out, together.
You're not broken. You're just running on an old pattern.
You're smart. Self-aware. You've probably done a lot of work on yourself. But something STILL keeps showing up in your relationship, in your reactions, in the way conflict feels like a threat instead of just... a disagreement.
Maybe you:
Spiral when your partner goes quiet — and don't know why it hits so hard
Over-explain yourself just to keep the peace, then feel resentful afterward
Shut down in arguments even when you have so much you want to say
Feel like you're "too much" — or not enough — depending on the day
Keep replaying the same fight with different words
Love your partner deeply but feel emotionally miles apart
The way you react in your relationship wasn't created by your relationship. A younger version of you learned these patterns to stay safe. And now, something in you is still playing by those old rules
Even when the situation doesn't call for it.
Therapy That Goes Beyond "Just Communicate Better"
You've probably heard the advice: use "I statements”, take a breath, don't go to bed angry, meditate
And sure — those things help.
But they don't explain why you react the way you do. And they definitely don't reach the part of you that still feels 10 years old in the middle of a fight.
That's where our work together goes deeper.
We look at:
Where your patterns started — family-of-origin wounds, childhood dynamics, what you learned about love early on
Why your nervous system reacts the way it does — how to regulate it in real time
How your attachment style plays out — in conflict, in closeness, and in the moments in between
How to communicate differently — clearly, calmly, without shutting down or blowing up
How to rebuild self-trust — so you stop second-guessing your feelings and start trusting yourself
This isn't just talk therapy.
It's pattern work.
It's nervous system work.
It's the kind of therapy where things actually start to shift.
Hi, I’m Michelle!
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Hi, I’m Michelle! *
I'm a licensed therapist based in New York City, and I specialize in helping couples and individuals who feel stuck in the same emotional loops — even when they desperately want things to be different.
I work at the intersection of attachment, childhood wounds, and relationship patterns. Which means I'm not just going to help you feel heard… I'm going to help you understand why you feel the way you do, and what to actually do about it.
My approach is warm, direct, and built on real, evidence-based methods, including IFS (Internal Family Systems), attachment theory, and nervous system regulation.
I'll challenge you gently.
I'll meet you where you are.
And I'll never make you feel like too much.
Where Do You Want to Start?
Individual Therapy for Relationship Anxiety & People Pleasers
For the person who over-explains, shuts down, or keeps the peace at the cost of themselves. We'll look at where those patterns started
AND how to finally change them
Couples Therapy in NYC
For partners ready to break the cycle of conflict, distance, and disconnection
AND learn how to actually feel safe with each other again
Therapy for Filipinos & Asian-Americans Navigating Relationship Patterns & Family Wounds
For Filipinos and Asian-Americans navigating relationship anxiety and cultural expectations, family dynamics, and family wounds
AND ready to finally understand how those layers have shaped the way you love, communicate, and show up for others.
You don’t have to keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships.
Whether you're coming in as a couple or on your own, if relationship anxiety, conflict, and disconnection keep showing up, this is the work.
And you don't have to figure it out alone.
Schedule a call via the BUTTON below.
You will receive an email within 1-2 business days confirming your call.
Have a question before hopping on a call? Just fill out the form to the right, and I’ll respond to you within 24 to 48 hours.
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